Saturday, January 29, 2011

CHALLENGES IN 2011

IT’S BEEN ALL TOUGH BUT I’M STANDING STRONG. I’VE BEEN HURT, BATTERD BY EMOTIONS, ENDLESS CRYING FOR DAYS, SICK, AND COMPLETELY DRAINED.

I LIVE AND WORK IN ABUJA. I DON’T HAVE A HOUSE, THUS I LIVED WITH MY SISTER.

IF U’VE BEEN FOLLOWING AND READING MY POSTS, U WILL SEE SOME WHERE I BICKERED ABOUT THE ISSUES BETWEEN MY SISTER AND I. BUT NOW I’M SO VERY SURE THAT I DO NOT KNOW OR WANT TO KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT HER FOR A VERY LONG TIME AND I MEAN SO.

I CAME BACK TO ABUJA AFTER THE XMAS BRK ON THE 5TH TO RESUME WORK ON THE 6TH. EVERYTHING WAS FINE WITH ME. I HAD ASKED MY SISTER WHEN THEY’LL BE BACK AND SHE SAID “NOT SURE YET”.

SOME DAYS LATER, WHILE AT WORK, I GOT A TEXT FROM HER HUSBAND SAYING I SHOULD HAND OVER THE KEYS OF THE HOUSE TO THEIR AGENT. AS CONFUSED AS I AM AT THE MOMENT, THAT WAS HOW I WAS ON THAT DAY WHEN I TURNED IN THE KEY AND I EVEN CALLED THE INLAW TO GET MORE INFO ON WHAT WAS UP AND HE REPILED;

ME: HELLO

HIM: GIVE THE KEY TO KINGSLEY

*CLICK* THE CALL ENDS. WHAT RUDENESS I THOT?

THIS NOW JUGGLED MY MEMORY, AS I REMEMBERED B4 THEN, WHEN MY SISTER CALLED TO SAY A FRIEND OF HER’S WAS COMING TO SEE THE HOUSE. SO I THOT TO MYSELF;;; *OH, SHE KNEW ALL ALONG AND JUST KEPT MUTE*

I CONTINUED TO STAY, HOPING THE INLAW WOULD COME SOON AS I WAS TOLD TO PICK UP THEIR PROPERTIES IN THE HOUSE. DAYS TURNED TO WEEK (+DAYS) HE NEVER SHOWED UP.
ONE DAY, WHILE AT WORK, SHE CALLED ME TO SAY;

SHE: HOW U HOLDING UP?

ME: FINE

SHE: HOW U GONNA DO ABT ACCOMODATION? BUT U KNOW, I KNOW U CAN SORT URSELF OUT. U ALWAYS HAVE A WAY OF DOING SO, BLA BLA BLAA BLA BLA BLA .

* WONDERING WHERE ALL THAT CAME FROM*

AS I GOT BACK 4RM WORK, I DISCOVERED THAT SOMEONE ELSE HAD MOVED IN. I PCKED UP MY PERSONAL STUFF AND MOVED OUT WITH NO WHERE IN MIND. ONLY THEN DID I REALIZE, THAT SHE ALSO KNEW THAT THE NEW OCCUPANT HAD MOVED IN AND STILL “DID NOT TELL ME”.

A FRIEND OF HERS (MY SIS), AND HER HUSBAND PUT ME UP, TILL I SORT MY SELF OUT. THEN ON MONDAY, SHE CALLED SAYING;

“U HAVE TO GET BACK TO OUR HOUSE AND WAIT TILL MY HUSBAND OR I COME TO GET OUR STUFF AND BESIDES WHO ASKED U TO EVEN GO STAY WITH THOSE PPLE?”

I THOT TO MYSELF, FIRST, U WERE MOVING, U NEVER TOLD ME. U DECIDED TO RENT OUT THE HOUSE, U NEVER TOLD ME, NEITHER DID U THINK I WAS IMPT ENOUGH TO EVER CARE A HOOT ABOUT.

SO SHE GOES OFF, CALLING ME NAMES UPON NAMES, AND HAD EVEN TOLD MY MUM AND GRANDMUM SOME HEART WRENCHING STUFF ABT HER FRIEND THAT HAD OFFERED ME A ROOF OVER MY HEAD.

I WAS SO MAD, AND EVEN WHEN MY MUM AND GRANDMUM HAD CALLED SAYING THAT I SHOULD GO BACK TO THEIR HOUSE AND WAIT TILL HER HUSBAND GETS THERE, I GAVE THEM MY SIPMLE RESPONSE OF “NO, INFACT NEVER EVER”.
WHAT U GUYS DO NOT KNOW IS HOW HARD IT’S BEEN, LIVING WITH THESE PEOPLE.

NOW, I'VE FOUND SOME PEACE FROM WITHIN ME, I'VE RECONCILED WITH THE FACT THAT IN THIS LIFE, *U ARE ACCOUNTABLE FOR URSELF. THINK FIRST FOR URSELF B4 BRINGING ANYOTHER INTO THE PICTURE EVEN IF THEY ARE FAMILY*
LESSON WELL LEARNT.

16 comments:

24yearOldTeEnAgeR said...

You'd be fine. *hugs*

lani said...

it's been a tough few days ... but put it all behind you and PURSUE peace...
the rest of the year is still going to be wonderful for you if you commit to loving God and man [your sister inclusive]

Lara said...

Are you guys really sisters???

I wish I could give you a physical hug...this is so sad and heart breaking...but the Good Lord will make it easy for you and give you the strength to pull through this. Take care of yourself, it is well

Madame Sting said...

Kpele, my dear. As my mom likes to say, if God can feed the birds of the air, he'll surely take care of you. I hope you sort yourself out soon and everything else falls into place. Don't worry, the year is still young, i pray everything works out for you and you have an awesome year.

neefemi said...

Hugs love... the Lord will provide all your needs according to his riches in glory and make ways for you to his Glory

This too shall pass

brown skin said...

Sorry dear like sting said the year is still young. I pray and hope everything works out for the best.

Bsnc

@ilola said...

Eeya sorry. I can't say I understand what you are going through. Please, don't judge the whole year by the way it started. It will be better in Jesus name.

Fragilelooks said...

24yearoldteen: thanks babes. will c u during d week.

lani: thanks lani. putting it past me.

lara: yeah, we are sisters o. as in blood sisters.

madame sting: thanks a lot. the good LOrd sure has been faithful even wen my faith seemed to waver.


neefemi: thank u so much.it sure must pass.

bsnc: it sure is gonna be a good year. thanks a lot.

@ilola:i'm nt gonna judge the whole yr based on this. i have life and with it hope and with hope, FAITH that the God i serve will bring his word to fruition in my life.

Jaycee said...

So sorry to read this, dear. What I can say is don't use your sister as an example to form a theory of putting yourself first, in fact what works is remaining selfless & putting others first, no matter what has happened in the past. Put other people first before you, forgive your sister and don't let what she's done rule your life.

It will be alright, don't worry :)

Fragilelooks said...

thanks jaycee. try, i will

funkola said...

(((hugs))) you'll be just fine and all will be sorted out in Jesus' name...and please be very willing to forgive.

Myne Whitman said...

It keeps surprising me what your sis does, but seriously, don't let her wear you out. I hope it works out.

Fragilelooks said...

funkola: thanks. working on myself to forgive and forget.

myne: the thing tire me. buh it's all good. thanks a mill

Rita said...

Gosh! I cant believe this!!! Let me not judge because we have not heard the other side of the story, but it doesnt sound fair. How are you coping? Sorry oh...

Repressed One said...

Oh WOW!! I didn't realize i wasn't breathing until i finished reading. How heart wrenching!!

Goodness, i can't imagine how i would handle this. Take heart dear, just take care of you. Leave them to God.

I would just say don't give them an opportunity to hurt you again...if that means staying away, so be it.

F and M said...

Trust me... I know the feeling. It's funny how survival instincts kick in at the expense of one's own family. I had a relative who made the house bloody uncomfortable for us because of her husband. Again, when it comes down to one's marriage, a family member can sell you down the river just like that. I'm still not sure if that makes it ok or not... Either way, hang in there. We all go through bad times now and then. Just don't let it define you.